I finally got a room with a bed. I also got a roommate who is more tech savvy than me and showed me how to listen to music videos on my phone. I also met someone who loves brown sugar Pop-Tarts. She didn’t watch “Gilmore Girls” when it was on, so I told her about Lorelai and Rory Gilmore’s love of Pop-Tarts and how they were mentioned frequently in the show. This all makes me happy, although I have to take everything a minute at a time.
Here is my playlist to get me through this. There are so many songs that I had to include some honorable mentions on my list.
- “Wake Me Up” by Avicii — If this is a bad dream, wake me up when it’s all over. This is my favorite song.
- “Hey, Brother” by Avicii. I love the sentiment of this song and it’s how I feel about my pretend family.
- “Let It Go” from “Frozen.” I love this movie, and the song has been me for a while, and especially now.
- “You Gave Me a Mountain” by Elvis. I heard this song a couple of weeks ago, and started crying because after all the other things I’ve been through, I don’t think I will make it up this particular mountain on some days.
- “I Got You Babe” and “All I Ever Need is You.” Not only does my friend, Greg, kind of look like Sonny Bono, this reminds me of my junior year of high school, when a friend’s parents had tickets to see Sonny and Cher in person. It was a really big deal for me–first they took us out to eat at a fancy restaurant, and then to the concert, which was a lot of fun.
- “I’ll Be There for You” (Theme from “Friends”) by the Rembrandts. I never got into the show or characters. There were only a few episodes I actually liked (I never liked the “Smelly Cat” one–I just thought they were making fun of that poor kitty, but that’s just my opinion. The sentiments expressed in the song are what I love.
- “The Lady is a Tramp” by Lady Gaga and Tony Bennett. First, I love Lady Gaga and Tony Bennett’s duets. They are great together. Second, several people where I am staying made some remarks about me and other people and I was referred to as the equivalent of a tramp. Although it hurt me a lot, taking me back to my elementary and junior high school days, I tried to consider the source, and adopted a Lady Gaga attitude.
- “Bad Day” by Daniel Powter . I’ve liked this song since it first came out. I always tried to cheer people up if they had a bad day. I’ve told this story before, so if you know me and you’ve seen it on my blog or heard me tell it, you can skip this or read it again–it’s my favorite story about my friend, Greg…I sent a novella I had written with a character in it who is loosely based on him to an e-pub, and he was going to pick me and my parents up to drive us to the store. I checked my e-mail before he was supposed to get there and the story was rejected. Not only that, the e-mail had typos in it and the editor referred to the scene I wrote where the heroine makes a toast at her brother’s wedding as “tasteless.” I cried to my mom about it–how could they reject this book that I worked to hard on–a book that had characters based on my wonderful friends in it? I got into Greg’s cab and read him my rejection e-mail. I’ll try to set the scene for you in case you haven’t heard this story (a fictionalized version of this anecdote appears in my e-book, “Mr. Short, Dark…& Funny). Greg leans back in the leather seat of the taxi. He’s got a handlebar mustache and he wears a baseball cap, and he gave me one of his crooked smiles and says, (drumroll or “Ta Da”) “Just send her an e-mail and say, “I may be tasteless, but you can’t type. And then send her a picture of your finger.” Well, I cracked up. To make a long story short (which I didn’t), the song “Bad Day” was playing in the grocery store when we got there.
- “Eye of the Tiger” by Survivor–this just makes me feel stronger whenever I hear it. I heard it at the Social Security office where they were showing “Rocky III” when I went to get my husband’s benefits (not much) after he passed away.
- “Hit the Road, Jack” by Ray Charles. After a fire in my condo in 2005, my cat, Jack Funelli (Jackie) had to move in with my parents for eight months. Jackie was a very large, playful tom cat who thought he was a kitten his whole life. My mom’s three cats, Babe, Tootsie and Cutesie were very laid back and wanted no part of being chased around by Jackie. So when Jackie and I got ready to move back to the condo, my mom put the Ray Charles CD in her player and sang “Hit the Road, Jack” to Jackie. Those are my ten go-to songs. And the honorable mentions go to: “Karma Chameleon” by Boy George–it’s just fun. “Walk Like an Egyptian” is fun, too, and somehow, I keep picturing myself in the cafeteria line at the shelter walking like an Egyptian. But somebody will probably make some comment about how silly I look. “Happy” by Pharell Williams. I didn’t really like this song when I first heard it. Now it’s growing on me. “It’s in His Kiss” by Cher–I want to sing along with this one, but I keep imagining one of the women at the shelter yelling “Shut up!!!!!!!!!!!!” as soon as they hear my singing voice. I’d better just lip sync. “The Twist” by Chubby Checker. This brings back memories because this was the first dance I learned. My ballroom dancing skills suck, but I can still do the twist. “Accidentally in Love” by Counting Crows is just a fun song that makes me feel better when I listen to it. I also like “Gone Gone Gone” by Philip Phillips–this is how I feel about my friends and my mom–I would do anything for them and more if I had the means. What music do you listen to to get you through a very stressful time? Do you have any other ways of coping?